Category: Motivation

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EARNING RESPECT

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”

Confucius

“I firmly believe that respect is a lot more important, and a lot greater, than popularity.”

Julius Erving

 

Respectability matters a lot. Respectful people are sincere, magnanimous, kind, genuine, transparent and empathetic. Respect cannot be demanded it has to be earned. 

  • Be humble.

 

  • Do not brag.

 

  • Be light hearted.

 

  • Be Passionate.

 

  • Focus on meaningful interactions

 

  • Celebrate the success of our friends and colleagues.

 

  • Laugh more.

 

  • Be inquisitive.

 

  • Control your emotions.

 

  • Be original.

 

  • Avoid third party conversations, gossip, innuendo, and small talk.

 

  • Be open minded and listen to what other people’s views and perspectives.

 

  • Last and most important – Detach yourself from your phone.

Reference: Anatomy of Success, by Steve Wohlenhaus

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39: Decision Making

Each day we make decisions, some of these are trivial with little consequence. Some however are important with huge implications.

Decision making can become stressful when our choices impact our life or lives of our near and dear ones.

There is no easy formula, but one can rely on their instincts, common sense, intuitions and trusted advisors.

Some useful tools for DM are:-

 

  • Rely on your instincts and intuition.

 

  • Consider your core values and how the decision will make you feel.

 

  • Consider your self-interest and your conscience

 

  • Pause and reflect – Write down if it helps – Create a list of pros and cons.

 

  • Empty your mind, relax and contemplate – take a walk.

 

  • Ask for advice – weigh advice depending upon the source.

 

  • Avoid analysis paralysis – fear of wrong decision is the cause for this.

 

  • Consider the long-term implications.

 

  • Visualize the outcome.

 

  • Avoid making emotional decisions – have a balance between rational and emotional.

 

  • Give yourself time before making difficult decisions – do not rush.

 

EASIER SAID THAN DONE  😊

 

Ref: Anatomy of Success by Steve Wohlenhaus

 

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36: SHIQURDU 3

 

  • Shiqurdu is a collection of thoughts. Although an odd sounding name, but felt appropriate for the collection.
  • These are simplified quotes in Hurdu (Hurdu being a mix of Hindi and Urdu akin to Hinglish i.e., hindi and english). Although in some cases the language has been simplified but attempt has been made to retain the thought and the poetic flavor.
  • These thoughts have been picked up from various publications. Credit goes to all the original writers who penned down these deep meaning messages.

 

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छोटी सी है ज़िंदगी, हर बात में ख़ुश रहो,

कल किसने देखा है, अपने आज में खुश रहो,

 

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लिख कर मिटा दिया कुछ ख़्वाबों को

हर ख्वाब सच हो ज़रूरी तो नहीं

 

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है ज़िन्दगी तो अपने हैं

हैं अपने तो ज़िन्दगी है

 

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उनका इल्जाम लगाने का अंदाज़ ऐसा ग़ज़ब का था

कि हमने ख़ुद अपने ही खिलाफ गवाही दे दी

 

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छोटी सी है ज़िंदगी हर बात में खुश रहो,

क्यों तड़पते हो हर पल किसी के साथ को

कभी-कभी अपने आप में खुश रहो

 

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इत्तफ़ाक़ से तो नहीं टकराते लोग दो

कुछ साज़िश तो ख़ुदा ने भी की होगी

 

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दिमाग़ का लिखा सभी पढ़ सके, सभी समझ सके

दिल का लिखा सभी पढ़ सके, कुछ ही समझ सके

 

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किताबो में दर्ज हुआ सीखते रहे

ज़िन्दगी कुछ और ही सिखा गयी

 

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किताब-ए-दिल का कोई सफा़ खाली नहीं होता

कदरदार तो वो भी पढ़ लेते हैं, जो लिखा नहीं होता

 

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